It’s not that I don’t lie. But I try most times not to. What people never know is that there is so much beauty in speaking truth. Truth helps avoid misunderstandings ,heartbreaks, conflicts, hatred. In as much as you always want to lie, know that truth will never be replaced.
I met him(Jack) on our first day of interview. He was the third person to arrive. After my interview It came to my mind that a friend requested me to get more information about something during my interview and I didn’t. So, I thought it would be wise if I waited for the person interviewed after me and got to ask him. Which I did and got the answers I needed.
In the evening I received a call from the company to report the next day. It felt great! Job hunting isn’t a walk in the park, for sure. I was grateful to see everyone I know (Jack included) being part of the job training that had been scheduled.
During the training, as is always the norm, we started by introducing ourselves. “Let’s introduce ourselves, start with your name, the place you stay, the university you were in, your relationship status and whether you have a kid or not. Please be brief. ” said the trainer. It was now Jack’s turn. ‘My name is Jack Otieno, I stay in Kasarani, I went to Jomo Kenyatta University of Agriculture and Technology, my relationship is complicated and I have a kid’.
His introduction caught my attention. I was surprised by how brave and proud he was saying that he had a kid when everyone else was assuming that part of the introduction.
I had the urge to ask more about the kid but I didn’t ask. I was afraid (It would have been weird). But I remember applauding him for such a good impression.
One day while heading home, I noticed he reads and he was at that time reading a book called ‘Everything is Fucked’ and no one reads it before getting their hands on Subtle art of not giving a fuck which was on my reading bucketlist. I requested him to lend me the latter. We planned on how I’ll get the book and instead of picking it in town, I went to pick it from his place.
While there I opened up to him about my then complicated relationship which was really disturbing my mind and he noticed. I wanted to hear his opinion. From our interaction, I knew him as an honest person and I was sure his response would not be biased. He as well opened up to me about his relationship that had ended two months ago.
His girlfriend had been lying to him for four months that she was expecting his baby just to get money from him. At first when he got to know she was expecting a baby, he was shocked(as anyone would be) and wondered what he would do. But later he made peace with himself(I don’t know how) but, everything else can be taken back but not a pregnancy and STI.
He needed to start preparing for the baby because babies come with blessings as well as responsibilities. And part of preparation was staying with a friend to save more money and make his business his priority (he used to go to gikomba every morning to get shoes for his clients). As a good boyfriend, he would send her money whenever she asked for it and at some point he had to borrow money to send her.
After all that, one day he woke up to a text from her girlfriend that she fell down the stairs and unfortunately miscarried which he later knew was a lie. He was hurt and decided to end the relationship.
What would you have done? Forgive and continue with the relationship? Comment below.
Lies destroy trust and once trust is destroyed restoring it is like chasing after the wind. Ladies when you find men like him, do not make them leave. Not all men take responsibilities for their kids. If you want money from him, do not lie, tell him the truth. If he gives it to you , well and good. If he doesn’t don’t feel entitled to what’s not yours!