When I was in primary school, there was this girl who always scored so poorly, and after finishing KCPE (Kenya Certificate of Primary Education) exams, she didn’t go to secondary school, instead she opted to do casual jobs and started being an adult as a teenager.
She did not perform poorly because she was ‘stupid’ or her brain was damaged and couldn’t understand the reading and writing, her poor performance were as a result of her belief. A belief that she was ‘cursed’. She used to say that she was the cursed one of her family, the black sheep who was going to amount to nothing.
That time I didn’t think much about her statement, but when I met her in the market sometime ago, her story became clear in my mind. she believed that she amounted to nothing and the sad thing is, she is still doing casual jobs here and there and she now has 3 kids. It’s my hope that she will not instill the same beliefs to her kids.
So when you look at her scenario, it is self created, she probably didn’t get someone to save her from her own mental wreckage, but I am here to remind us that our little voices and constant thoughts shape our decisions and eventually our lives, so lets be careful what we are telling ourselves, lets replace the negative talk with a positive one and that will change our course. It may not be easy at first but with practice we will start seeing results no matter how long the process can be.
Be kind and stay safe.